just now, my consulting manager told me that i'll be helping out the audit dept with their interim audit. i was quite surprised when she suddenly broke the news, but it was kinda expected that i'll be temporarily transferred to audit dept as i already had 3 years experience in audit. sumhow, this had made me became so nervous. As this was my 1st time leading a team at a new place(as i am still in dark about the way they perform their audit, their culture and their expectation), furthermore this is our 1st year audit which means that we had no reference at all and the best of all this is a construction company(a construction company always lead to complicated and tedious audit procedure to be carried out).
this thingy had kinda killed my festive mood as i was bit worried whether i'll manage to handle the team and the interim audit well (as i am having a feeling that all the manager has high expectation of me as i had previous experience in one of the big 4) so, i had loaded my raddish with the Firm's audit procedure and various crucial info for the audit planning so that i could read and digest and plan for a hopefully a well executed audit schedule. wish me luck~
Skang musim bercuti kat ofis. Ade yg amik cuti kawin, cuti mengabiskan cuti, cuti bawak anak jalan2 dan cuti utk exam. Tp kebanyakkannye cuti exam la, sbb exam ACCA is just around the corner. Aku jelah tak amik cuti. Sbb baru masuk keja dan aku tak amik exam bulan 12 nie.
Keja kat audit firm nie mmg bertuah dan memudahkan. Sbb buat masa skang, tak byk lg kompeni komersial yg sanggup bagi cuti free yg dinamakan study leave dan exam leave utk pekerja yg sambung stadi. Tp kalo di audit firm, 1 paper leh dpt 5 hari study leave dan 1 hari exam leave, Mahal tu! Still, ramai org kate tak cukup cuti banyak tu. Bg aku, mmg cukup cuti byk tu, provided kite bukan gune cuti tu utk berjalan2, berdating, work out kat gym saje, qada tido, marathon cite korea atau stadi saat2 akhir.
Ade beberapa org penah tanye aku, ko cuti utk ape? Aku jawab cuti nak stadi utk exam. Pastu diorg akan buat muke terkejut dan tanye lagi, ko sambung belaja ke, rajinnye ko.Pastu aku akan jawab panjang lebar, aku buat ACCA, nak jadi akauntan, aku buat nie pun under P*et dan blab la. Soklan last skali sblm topic ditutup, ACCA tu ape? ACCA tu sejenis qualification utk jadi akauntan bertauliah, daripada UK. Tak susah pun nak buat ACCA tu, asalkan duit byk, setahun leh amik byk exam dan repeat berkali2 pun. Bunyi mcm sijil yg dibeli je? Tadeklah semudah tu. Sbb examnye susah nak dipas dan ade byk requirement experience yg kena direpot kat diorg.
Org juge ske tanye nape buat part time study? Aku ske jawab, alasan kukuh nak tangguh kawin. Sebenarnye aku nak sentiasa aktifkan otak aku nie. Sbb nak elak2 kan penyakit dementia dan yg seangkatan dgnnye. Dan aku rase thru additional degree n cert nie dpt mempercepatkan proses promotion gak. Kalo ditanye kat org lain, mungkin ade yg akan cakap, sbb nak jumpe kawan baru atau tak tau nak buat ape dgn duit atau bosan asik kena berkepit dgn bf/gf atau bos suruh sambung belaja dan tidak kurang gak yg kate nak tebus kesilapan lalu.
Kalo ditanye susah atau tak buat part time study nie. Jawapan aku mane ade benda yg bagus dtg bergolek camtu je. Lagi2 plak kalo dlm line audit nie. Dah tak terkira bape kali aku tuang kelas (tp aku tak penah tuang revision kelas, penting tu, sbb tu kelas summary 3-4 bulan punye kelas) Sbb aku tuang kelas, kena ot kat tpt client atau sbb dah terlalu penat atau sbb kena rush kuarkan audit report. Last2 aku decide tanak amik kelas utk certain2 paper yg aku boleh stadi sendri. Mostly paper teori la. Jimat masa, duit dan tadeklaa aku rase bersalah setiap kali aku skip kelas. Pastu, mase yg ade utk ulangkaji pun terhad. Balik keja dah malam. Weekend kekadang ade kelas. So bile lagi? Makanye kena buat jadual belaja. Tp aku tak buat. Nnt tambah rase bersalah plak bile aku tak follow.
Part time study tak semestinye benda yg berunsurkan ilmiah semata2. Wpun ramai gak yg sambung MBA, amik degree mgmt program, atau bermacam2 certification. Ade gak yg amik part time kelas memasak, kelas menjahit , kelas piano dan mcm2 kelas laa yg dpt meng’enrich’kan lg kehidupan. Tp part time camnie biasanye tak dapat study leave laa, tp sgt membantu menghilangkan stress.
Minggu hadapan, pada malam raya haji, episod akhir Nur Kasih. So, jgn ketinggalan k. Frankly speaking, aku sbnrnye tadeklaa se-addicted cam mak aku. takleh nak miss langsung. just towards episode 18 keatas, the series getting emotional dan bile aku tgk, style penyampaian cite die ade ala2 korean series skit. Mungkin sbb skrip, arahan, sinematografi dan lakonan watak2 yg nmpknye menjiwai watak2 diorg.
Impak cite nie mmg byk. Ade yg sanggup siapkan keja secepat mungkin pada hari jumaat sbb nak balik awal. Ade yg sanggup skip gym. Ade yg hanye mulakan aktiviti malam lepas habis nur kasih. Ramai gak makcik2 berdoa semoga anak2 daranye dpt kawin org cam aidil atau anak terunanye dpt kawin dgn org cam nur amina. Dan aku rase ramai gak yg berangan2 nak kawin dgn org cam nur tu.
p/s: malam tu aku akan tgk nur kasih bersama2 nur kasih ariessa. :)
1st time aku tgk cite 3d. Siap angkut bonda tersayang skali. Kat TGV KLCC, harga tiket utk 3D adalah RM18 seorang. B4 masuk panggung, kami diberi cermin mata khas. (tp kena pulang baliklaa kan). As a 1st timer, seriously aku kagum n cam jakun skit. All seems so real n really close to us. Nway, sape yg tak tahu Christmas Carol, yg ditulis oleh Charles Dickens nie. Pasal si tua yg kedekut dan cengeng, Scrooge yg mase Eve of Chrismast telah dibawa ke 3 tpt oleh 3 spirit yg berbeza2; the past, present and future utk menyedarkan dan mengubah perangai Scrooge yg bencikan krismas. A heartwarming movie with nice construction of 3D. Namun, aku tak berapa dpt menikmati cite nie tadi. 1st mungkin sbb aku terlalu kenyang, so dah mcm mengantuk skit. 2nd sbb tadek english subtitle. 3rd sbb aku dh dpt mengagak jalan cite. 4th sbb cite nie banyak dark scene. 5th sbb ade org2 yg tak reti adab kat tgk wayang; berborak2 dan on hp yg lampunye terang gile.
Sbg konklusi, aku rase tadeklaa berbaloi sgt rm18 tu, tp agak oklaa utk kualiti 3d yg aku dpt nikmati tadi. So, kalo korang nak cube, bolehlaa tgk "Avatar" directed by Steven Spielberg nnt.
If you want to be happy, be independent. If you want to make people unhappy, make them dependent on you, and let them down.
Seperti biasa waktu lunch adelah waktu berborak2 kosong. Haritu kami berborak pasal transportation, pasal exam ACCA dan pasal lelaki yg cerewet. Alkisahnye, sorang senior nie mmg akan berjalan kaki balik ke umah, sbb hanye 5 minit je dr umah. Dan suatu hari tu, ofismate yg terserempak dgn die, offer laa nak anta balik umah. Dan akak tu cakaplaa tanak(yelaa, sbb dah dekat sgt kan?) Pastu budak tu kate "Akak nie, laki tak ske tau pompuan yg independent sgt"
Hurm, pelik. Setahu aku diorg lagi suke pompuan yg independent. Sbbnye senang nak diurus dan tak perlu nak dijaga sangat. Dan mmg betul ape yg aku cakap, bile ditanye pada seorg kawan yg baru bertunang, ttg pilihan dia tu..die jawab "sbb die independent. tak perlu nak dihantar dan diambil. Sume boleh buat sendri. Senang."
Bagi aku, pompuan mmg patut jd independent. Supaya tak senang diperlekehkan dan supaya tadek rase hilang arah bile2 things went wrong. Dan lelaki pulak, jgn plak take things for granted. Mungkin sometimes ur wife or gf ade perasaan nak dipamper skali skala. So skali skala buatlaa suprise, tggu depan ofis or offer tolong die setelkan sumthing. dan pompuan plak, if u're happened to be with guy who is a dominant kind of person, jgn laa terlalu menunjukkan sikap independent tu, so that diorg tadek rase yg diorg tak diperlukan. Yg jenis dependent tu plak, tp bf/suami jenis sibuk selalu, memule mungkin rase sumenye still best dimate si laki, tp sooner or later kalo tadek effort, maybe akan menimbulkan kerunsingan dan kesusahan plak.
Papehal pun, dalam ape jua keadaan pun, independent tu mmg sgt penting. Wpun susah nak dimulakan. Once, u're on the track, sume jd senang n it will helps u to boost ur confidence too.
p/s: aku tak de lesen kereta lg. skali skala terpaksa dependent g kenduri kendara atau outing atau travel trip dgn kawan2.tp most of the time aku mmg expert dgn public transport nie. so, adekah aku independent dr segi transportation nie?
hari nie dimulakan dgn pagi yg sgt kelam kabut. Aku tertido dgn contact lens dan spt dijangka, contact lens aku ilang laa pagi2 buta tu. Kebetulan aku dah tadek spare. Nak tanak aku terpakse membongkar katil aku, ketuk2 bantal, ketuk2 cadar, angkat tilam, menyuluh bawah katil. Last2 aku jumpe dicelah2 kayu katil. Aku cuci contact lense aku 3 kali, baru aku pakai. Pastu kelam kabut, solat subuh, iron tudung, cari kotak kasut pink wedges dan kemas katil balik (aku mmg ske dress up lebih2 skit on Friday..;p)
aku tggu bas lebih lame dr biasa. Dekat 20 minit baru ade bas. “konfem aku kena berasak naik lrt harini” .dahlah pakai kasut mahal, kena jln cepat2 plak tu, alamatnye cepatlaa kasut aku rosak. Spt aku jangka, line dah panjang. Aku terpaksa pas 1 trip (seb baik berasak dgn org2 mesia yg keja klcc saje). Smp wangsa maju, bas plak yg lmbt. Smp ofis just nice before 8.30 dan terpakse touch up balik ..hahaha..tulah..lenkali tanggalkan contact lens dulu..:p
mlm td..sume kat umah aku malas nak masak..kesudahannye aku mkn ayamas goreng..isi ketam goreng dan karipap segera goreng..nie pun lepas dpt kebenaran drpd public trainer..LOL (haha..tiru style die gelak) ..mlm sblm tu aku layan french toast dgn skit peanut butter dan honey..aku dah berjaya mengurangkan ketagihan aku pada nasi! yeay!
Last week (and even till today) was a torturous. It had been raining almost everyday (I’m not blaming the rain. But having cloudy weather almost every evening was a bit depressing to me). I was having a reminiscent of me and Mr.X. This was totally out of nowhere. It was not triggered by any of his SMSes or phone calls (in fact I received none since the day I returned the thing. Thus, the fact that I was mentioning this, does this means that I hoped to receive any from him since the beginning?) Maybe I was bit depressed. This depression was due to my attempt to adapt with the new work. And at the same time I was a bit tense when thinking about the PTD Assessment program that I have to attend this coming December. I think this was a habit of me, as I was used to tell him and my fears, my feelings, my concerns. Though most of the time he would say something nice to comforts me, but there were times when he just listening to my grumbles and rants without saying nothing at all as he knew that I just want to borrow his ears. Now that things had taken an unfavorable turn, I was in dark. To who shall I expressed my fears, my feelings now. I just can’t find the answer. I just had the memories.
However, last week was different. I was having the best fight ever. My heart was rebelling. Provoking me to sms him or call him. My pride was totally against the idea of giving in. The pride views my attempt as a sign of desperation. I was clueless. Alhamdulillah, I managed to contain myself from contacting him.
I told my bff about this. She was telling me that, I was still having the symptoms. She even suggested that I should meet him and resolve everything. Eventually, I’m not sure, what are we trying to resolve? Our un-named relationship? Our feelings? We could seat face to face. Talking about what’s in the past. Then? Discussing about the future? The future without “us” or with “us”.
As much as I want to resolve this, I am pretty sure of one thing. One of us will hurt another intentionally. Why would I open up myself for another cut, when I’m still in healing process? I am also very2 certain that though whatever the outcome of this so called meeting, this “L” feelings will keeps on linger for quite some time.
p/s: what a decision to make. I can do this! I must do this.
utk kali ke 2 aku mengulang amaran aku kat org2 di umah aku. " sape2 lg tanye bile nad nak kawin, nad nak pindah umah". aku serius. dah sgt bosan dan muak! aku baru 26. adik aku dah kawin.tu hal die. dah bercinta hampir 8 tahun. takan nak tggu aku. baru diorg nak kawin?. aku bukan tanak kawin. cume jodoh tak sampai lg. nape nak kecoh sgt?
aku sebenarnya dah penat nak mencari. aku pun dah penat dikecewakan. bile aku pulangkan cincin tu kat mr.x. aku igtkan rase penat aku menunggu die dah abis. tp aku still rase letih smp skang. aku rase letih dan perit bile ntah bile2 aje aku tetibe teringat kat die.
tp ironi nye. aku masih berani mencuba. tp percubaan tu tak kemana pun. sbnrnye aku nak tanye je. what went wrong. memule. everything went well. tetibe keadaan jd senyap. dan hampir tadek ape2. mungkin sbb die dah tahu. dan die sedar. i'm not the one.
now. it hurts so much. there's nothing i can do to heal the pain. i just keep staring thru the window. thru the rain. let time flies. time is the best healer. love. pls stop knocking on my heart.
keja baru. probation period 3 bulan. annual leave 16 hari. gaji adelaa beberapa. ofis dekat lrt. dekat jj dan carrefour. tp kena naik teksi atau bas la. sykt bumiputera. saja tukar angin. setakat nie. aku suke. takyah pk nak pakai kasut ape. sbb kami tak perlu pakai kasut dipejabat. yelah. buat ape berkasut di atas karpet baru? yg sedap dipijak plak tu?. hari isnin. dimulakan dgn bacaan al-quran dan tafsir beramai2. peluang utk improve bacaan dan perbanyakkan bacaan al-quran. kalo ade mase boleh ke kelas tajwid. kerja di sykt bumiputera mmg lain skit. tatatertib kena jaga lebih skit drp biasa. takleh pakai baju sembarangan.(aku ade baju kerja sembarangan ke). lain2 masih dlm percubaan mengadunkan diri dgn diorg. aku cume rindukan hari jumaat yg aku boleh pakai kasual.
mlm jumaat. aku dinner ngan ex-officemate kat shangri-la. boss dpt diskaun 35%. bolehlaa nak belanje kitorg yg ramai nie. aku tak bape makan sgt pun. sbb perut aku dah masuk angin. just layan sushi, sashimi, sepotong pizza, dim sum dan salad. tp pencuci mulut ttp aku tak lupe wpun tgh sakit perut. tiramisu. choc fountain. aiskrim. crepe. tp tu je yg aku lalu nk makan. lain2 diabiskan dgn lawak2 yg tah pape dan amik gamba.
sabtu pagi. pttnye aku pegi gym. tp kalo dah malam sblmnye aku dah membantai byk gak raw food. kite boleh agaklaa ape kesudahannye di keesokan harinye. jadi aku duk umah saje. sampai ptg. adik aku tepon. mintak tolong babysit Kasih. mak aku ske sgt. huhu. takat suke dpt jumpe cucu jelaa. tp aku laa mangsanye.(aku bkn tak suke budak2. just aku clueless bile diorg menangis.tak dpt nak figure out what's wrong). Kasih smp lebey kurang pukul 7.30ptg. comel sgt! dah pandai senyum. sejam lebih die senyap je. tgk tv. tgk org. pastu die dah mula tak keruan. cari mami die punye susu la. haha. kelaka plak. die asik tgk muke aku. pastu die pandang tpt lain. mesti die pk "mcm mami. tp nape tak putih cam mami?" kesudahannye die nangis. aku dodoikan die. baru tido jap. terjaga. sbb dgr hon keta. bg susu botol. die rejek. pastu muke kerut2. oh. membuang upenye. aku laa tukang tukar lampinnye. keadaan berulang utk 2 kali pd mlm tu. smp si maminye dtg amik. penat!
ahad. aku bangun dgn kepala berdenyut di tengah2 dahi. tekak aku sgt perit. aku masak dan mkn lunch (sambal ikan, udang masam manis dan kerabu pucuk paku). dan aku tido smp maghrib. ye. aku demam. sbb asik kena ujan waktu petang. mlm tu baru aku mandi. aku pakse diri mandi air sejuk standard air kolah kat kg. aku pakse telan actifast 3 biji juga. alhamdulillah. aku dah tak demam pagi nie.
aku rase minggu nie pun aku akan ade wiken yg santai. wpun aku rindu kesibukan kuar dgn kawan2. tp kalo selalu dpt lepak kat umah. tak buat pape pun. sgt seronok. what a life~
aku tak tahu. perlukah aku risau benda nie skang? masenye masih lame lg. tp mungkin aku nie byk sgt berpk kot. aku dah nak keja sebulan kat ofis baru nie. aku still adapting. n so far ruang utk aku adapt kat sini ade. tp ptg tadi, surat dah sampai. surat panggilan ke assesment centre. hmm. baru masuk 2nd level. jalan masih jauh. ntah lepas atau tak. persoalannya. kalo aku buat yg terbaik. dan lepas sume level. dan dioffer. sah2 laa kena lapor diri saat2 terakhir. yg paling aku risaukan. kalo tu memerlukan aku resign 24 hours. sbbnye. kalo ikut offer letter. kena serve two month notice. kalo dah kena resign 24 hours. kena bayar balik gaji 2 bulan? kena bayar hampir rm7k? berbaloi ke? aku dah mula rase tersepit. antara mak aku yg nak sgt aku jd ptd. dan antara diri aku sendiri yg dah bosan nak mengadapt dgn dunia yg baru. ya allah. semoga Kau permudahkan hidupku.
so what kalo hari ini hari rabu? hari nie aku byk gile keja tak siap2. pastu superior aku amik half day sbb anak demam panas. hari nie spt hari yg lain. tp hari nie kalo pada 10 tahun yg lepas mmg special. special sbb harinie kena pakai baju unit beruniform g sekolah. aku mmg ade byk kenangan dgn baju unit beruniform nie. lagi plak budak2 sbp, bile sampai tang unit beruniform, berjela jelaa aktiviti2.
mase aku baru form 1, aku puas pk nak join unit beruniform yg mane. akhirnye aku decide join pandu puteri. kesinambungan utk tunas puteri (mase aku sek rendah). utk form 1 - form 3 tak byk benda menarik sgt. which was good. aku dpt escape dr perbarisan hari sukan yg aku benci sgt2.
naik form 4, automatik aku jd renjer puteri. dan tang2 tu jugaklaa kuar pekeliling utk pakai baju unit beruniform dr pagi. yg nie aku dan rakan2 renjer puteri mmg tak ske!!. tak selesa, pakai baju kemeja n tuck in skirt(nasib baik mase tu aku still kurus lg)..pastu jalan2 keliling sekolah-time recess, time g library /toilet. so aku selalu tak tuck in. sehinggalah pada suatu hari aku bertembung dgn cikgu disiplin. bile die nampak aku tak tuck in baju tu, die panggil aku n cubit perut aku tang2 tu jugak.woh..sakit gile..lebam lame baru baik tu.. pastu aku tuck in sentiasa la..
tak dpt aku lupe..bile dua2 tahun tu kitorg diwajibkan masuk perbarisan hari sukan dan pertandingan kawat..maybe sbb kitorg jenis geng yg ske rebel dgn cikgu2 unit..so kirenye nak mendisiplinkan kitorg laa tu..dlm tgh memberontak tu, kitorg leh menang plak tu..heheh..tp yg paling aku geram, bile aku kena pegang bendera yg berat tu sepanjang perbarisan dan upacara perasmian(niepun kerja cikgu kelab)..mmg menahan diri drp pitam mase tu..
last but not least, yg aku rindui, aktiviti berkhemah kat kawasan sekolah. totally unforgettable. i can proudly said that almost everything kat sekolah tu aku dah panjat dan redah. hahaha . tembok court tenis..pokok2..longkang2..kolam2..tebing2 curam di padang2 kat sekolah.
p/s: another crap. aku tgh cari momentum nak mengabiskan novel aku. woh. lg 15 chapter.
aku tgh menggeledah barang2 lama aku..sbb nk cari koleksi tag2 aktiviti kat utp..tp aku tak jumpe..sebaliknye aku jumpe journal..tadeklaa journal pun..lebih kepada koleksi mcm2 jenis tulisan..short stories..quotes..poems..bile aku bace balik..ade yg aku gelak2..ade yg aku cam terkejut ..tak sangke aku tulis benda camtu..hahah..layan jelaa ~
Once upon a time. When things are sweet and simple. When people singing their love songs. When the birds whistling their tune
Then as time goes by Heart stops beating Pulse stops pulsing Love goes without saying
If that how times goes Make my love stray away Would it come back to me? If I keep on wishing
Dear mr.clock pls stops ticking Let me have this moment forever Let me speak these 3 words first Then you can start ticking again
Hey mr.clock why are you still ticking I just want a moment. I just want to say I love you.
arts can be in so many form. in written. in visual. in shorties. in films. in speaking. etc. appraising arts can also be done in so many ways; by blogging it. by admiring, by standing ovation, by having mind debate, etc. recently, to be specific yesterday i got the opportunity to appraise a form of art; art of sculpture.
Rhythm of the 21st Century, Monologues of Raja Shahriman is currently exhibited at Galeri PETRONAS KLCC till Jan 2010. the sculptures were made of forged metal. From what i read in the phamplet, this is his 6th solo exhibition. besides sculpture, there were also sketches and paintings (catan). some of the sculptures were quite transparent (can be easily understood) while some of it were not. i think the overall idea of this is about wars. despite economy turmoil, global warming, wars is another significant tempo in rhythm of the 21st century.
though this was my 1st time at his solo exhibition, it was no doubt that YM Raja Shahriman is very talented artist when I was mesmerized and provoked as i saw this specific masterpiece. it was consisted of two big sculptures with gold bullets, standing opposite/align to each other on piles of stripes of forged metals, like ppl in warzone/maybe after the war. (i wish i could took the pix of that sculpture).impressive!
eventually, to be able to understand and appraise arts like this, it will be much easier if you join any walkthru with the Curator. As they can provide more info n details of the arts.
p/s: this is not my new interest. this is just something that i leisurely do.
genre2 cite perang, sci-fi, dan yg seangkatan dgnnye bukan kegemaran aku. sbb kehidupan aku sendri pun dah cukup complicated..tk perlu aku peningkan kepala aku lg tgk cite camnie..tp haritu member aku ajak tgk cite "inglourious basterds"..aku pd awalnye mmg ragu2..tp aku cube bg peluang pade diri sendiri utk tgk movie nie..sumber kekuatan aku : quentin (had always been admiring his works)..
cite nie pasal zaman pemerintahan nazi hitler..around 1940s laa..dlm keghairahan org hitler nak menghapuskan kaum yahudi..ade satu kebangkitan yg cube melakukan yg sebaliknye iaitu dikenali "inglourious basterds"..kemuncak perjuangan mereka adalah apabila mereka mendapat tahu semua pemimpin tertinggi akan menghadiri premier tayangan filem di panggung wayang..perancangan pembunuhan beramai2 mule diatur..kegilaan disebalik pembikinan filem mengenai kejayaan seorang hitler membunuh hampir 300 org yahudi..dendam seorg pelarian yahudi setelah menyaksikan kematian ahli keluarganya..dan..tekad berani mati "angkatan jahanam" utk menghapuskan rejim pemerintahan fuhrer..sememangnye satu komedi gelap yg dpt digarap dgn baik..cume mungkin terlalu ganas kot..
aku cepat bosan laa skang..nape sampai mcm nie? maybe sbb aku tak jumpe lg benda yg aku betul2 nak..atau aku mmg dlm mode asik nak berubah je..aku tukar template lg..yg nie mmg tak se cooling n soothing sblm nie..maybe aku akan tukar lagi..minggu depan..tp i think for now..the new blog template is kinda cute too..aint it?
p/s: sumone call me yesterday..kalo b4 this i was so excited n berbunga2 bile die call..but this time around..his call buat aku migraine..currently tgh pk the correct words n phrase to tell him..to stop trying..as i am in no mood for love rite now..
Sunday, November 01, 2009
Body odour, humdrum sex cause divorces in Terengganu By R.S.N. MURALI KUALA TERENGGANU: Smelly body odour, humdrum sex and boring pyjamas are behind the high divorce rate in the state and the government is scrambling to find ways to improve sexual relations, especially for newly wed couples. Top on its list of proposals is to invite cosmetic firms to introduce exotic and sensuous fragrances which can arouse sexual ardour. State Religious and Information committee deputy chairman Muhammad Ramli Nuh believes that this effort could slow the divorce rate among young couples. He told The Star Sunday that at least three in every ten marriages registered in the state ended in divorce. He added that separations were now common among couples aged between 25 and 30 years.Muhammad Ramli said that couples who had been married for less than five years but already on the verge of separation told counsellors that routine sex and smelly body odour were the main reasons behind their break up. He said he was bewildered that some couples even blamed their spouses for old-fashioned pyjamas - sarong and t-shirt - body odour during intimate moments made their sex life monotonous or turned them completely off. “I know of one case where a separation was triggered because the spouse smelled of fish crackers,” he said. Hence, Muhammad Ramli ...
i maybe not in the right shoe to talk about this. but this is the fact. "kalo suke tu..bau kentut pun cam bau perfume vera wang/sjp/versace..tp kalo dah tak ske/bosan, bau yg dpt ditahan bertahun2 tu terus jadi cam bau busuk tahap bangkai". aku tak bape pasti punca2 benda mcm nie berlaku. mungkin sbb tak paham kot ape erti disebalik munakahat tu. atau menganggap perkahwinan tu skdr utk menghalalkan sesuatu yg haram tu..bukan memandangnye sbg suatu ibadah. menakutkan bile aku bace lingkungan umur tu. aku raselaa. pengertian perkahwinan tu sgt penting. kefahaman tu yg menentukan kejayaan sesuatu hubungan.
adik laki aku td telah merajinkan diri die utk menolong mak kami buat kek marble. oh, tolong jgn terkejut. die bukan ske buat keja pompuan. tp die tolong sbb kek tu dibuat khas utk calon bini no 3 die. (no 1 n no 2 dah tak kisah dah pun) . jdnye. jadilah suatu senario yg tak penah aku lihat selama nie. adik aku yg pakai boxer je. sibuk mengayak tepung dan mengadun kek. sbb die pakai boxer je. so aku tak dptlaa amik gamba keriuhan dan kesepahan yg terjadi bile laki masuk dapur. kek tu turn out sedap. tp tak bape nak naik n gebu. mak aku saspek tepung kek tu tadek serbuk penaik. takpelaa.asalkan sedap. dan utk meraikan kerajinan adik aku, aku masakkan cucur udang dan cucur pisang (cekodok) utk diorg. sedapnye cicah cucur udang ngan kuah kacang!
Harapan keLuarga (sbnrnye harapan abah aku je) haritu abah aku sibuk bertanye sape calon dihati. aku sbb tanak dgr sebarang idea pelik2, aku cakaplaa aku ade 2-3 org kawan. agaknya abah aku tak convince kot. die tanye lagi:
keja kat mane? org kat mane? bukan kelantan kan? bukan t'ganu kan? solat penuh tak? dan byklaa soklan ceklist requirement yg lain..
aku dah dgr abah aku tanye byk benda nie. jd lainlaa.(nielaa sbbnye aku malas nak jumpe abah aku nie). pastu aku diam la. pastu abah aku kate nak kenalkan aku ngan sapetah. die kenal sbb mamat nie selalu g masjid. solat terawih tak tggl. n mcm2 kebaikan die abah aku canangkan. hurm. ok. sbb aku diam je, abah aku sambung lg. buat ape nak bercinta sgt sblm kawin? buat ape nak org hensem, kaya dan bla bla tp solat tunggang langgang. ok. aku dgr tang nie, aku mmg geram. tp aku start mengandaikan aku pakai kapas dlm telinga tak dgr pape. aku cume jawab:
nad tanak. nad nak cari sendri. biar lambat.at least kalo pape jd. nad sendri yg tanggung. tak payah nak involve sape2.
aku menghargai niat baik abah aku. tp aku dah berjanji dgn diri sendri hal hidup/cinta aku, biarlah aku sendri yg uruskan. wpun abah aku rase nie cara terbaik die nak menebus kesilapan die. aku ttp rase kesilapan abah aku tu. sudah lame aku maafkan. yg selebihnye. terserah pada Allah jela..
